What The Daughter Does, The Mother Did!

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Dateline's Chris Hansen

Dateline’s Chris Hansen

Everyone keeps asking me, when are you having another baby. Well, that’s a topic for another post. Don’t get me wrong, I am not opposed to having another child, but if it were to happen I’d want another son. I love little boys. My husband has begged me to stop saying that out loud because it sounds creepy, like Chris Hansen may bust into our living room with cameras rolling.

What I am trying to say is that I’ve always felt I would be a better mother to a boy. Sometimes I think it is because of my close relationship with my younger brother, but most of the times it is because I remember how I was as a child. Have you ever heard the saying, “What the daughter does, the mother did”? Well, that scares the hell out of me. Ask my parents and they will gladly give you a first person account of the ridiculous things I did as a child, and the highlight reel gets worst after I hit 16. But, even as my loving parents are rolling on the floor laughing at my stupidity, I think to myself, if you only knew the stuff I did and never got caught. To this day I still won’t say my crimes out loud because I am not sure of the statute of limitations. Olivia Pope couldn’t save me from my parents and I’m grown!

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Little Miss “Force to be Reckoned With” & My Little Brother

Yet, one of my girlfriends is praying hard that my next child is a girl. She believes my daughter would be a better version of myself, which she contends would be a force to be reckoned with. I appreciate the compliment, but I don’t have the patience to raise “a force to be reckoned with”—that doesn’t sound appealing at all.

Don’t get me wrong, Girls Rock! But, I’m not jumping at the chance to be responsible for one of them. I’m not good at doing hair, so unless my daughter likes the Sinéad O’Connor look she’s screwed. Little girls are usually into the boys before boys even know they exist. Most of these little girls have more breast, hips and butt than they know what to do with…and there are plenty of perverts willing to lend a helping hand. And, on top of all of this, I’m still haunted by the fact that my mother and I butted heads horribly throughout high school. I don’t want to go through that again. To think I will spend hours in labor to push out a little girl who in 16 years I will want to push off a cliff–NO THANK YOU!

I know I have no control over the sex of my next child. And, ultimately I know I will be thankful for whoever the Lord blesses me with, but, if on the off chance Jesus is taking personal request, I pray there is a little baby penis in my future. Calm down Chris Hansen, you know what I mean.

My diary entry is this, “One of me is enough!”


  1. Well I have a daughter. Smh I remember when I was pregnant I prayed for a girl. I didn’t and won’t know what to do with the boy kind. She was like a doll at first I used to dress her up. I remember she always wanted lipstick and a purse. Now my daughter is 10 and not a day goes by that I am not in awe of who she is. I love her personality. She took all of her dad’s best qualities. She also took some of the bad ones too. And those qualities make me want to choke her! I see the change from my sweet little girl to some stranger I want to fight! So I feel daughters are a true blessing because they become your best friend as an adult but to get there in one piece is the challenge. I look at the relationship I have with my mom and I know it wasn’t an easy road to get there, but my world would be incomplete without my two favorite ladies. So daughters are awesome! You are one, I think that you awesome too!

    • Yovanni, thank you. That is a HUGE COMPLIMENT!!!

      10 years old…WOW! It seems like you are clear on your end goal. I respect that and I appreciate your honesty.

      Writing this diary entry has been therapeutic for me. It is clear that the reason a girl frightens me stems from my own insecurities. Luckily, if the Lord should happen to “curse” …I kid…I kid…If the Lord should happen to “BLESS” me with a little girl I have enough people around me (and on MOD) to contact for reassurance and restraint 😉

  2. Thank you for the scary, but true confirmation. I do have more concerns/WORRIES with raising a little girl after raising a boy (now young man). All that you mentioned (ie. body development, boy interest,etc.) about girls are true. I am TRULY nervous in raising my daughter and it is not because of my parenting or her behavior; it is the cruel and unkind world. I pray that the almighty grants your desire for another little boy.

    • Donna, From your lips to God’s ears! Thank you for not making me feel like I’m the only person who has ever thought about this.

      Deep down, I am assured (or at least hopeful) that regardless of raising a boy or girl, if a parent’s intentions are true, their presence is felt and they lead by example, 9 times out of 10 everyone should make it out with limited scars. As for you, ya’ll don’t play–so I have no doubt that everything will be copacetic. Eye of the tiger! 🙂

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